What Not To Say

….to someone with depression.

Smile! *insert inane grin from the person saying it*

What’s wrong with you?

What crawled up your arse and died?

Chin up.

You’ll be alright.

Take some Rescue Remedy.

What’s up, now?

You have nothing to be depressed about.

Get over yourself.

Why are you being such a bitch?

Stop being so selfish.

What have you got to be so unhappy about?

Oh, I read an interesting article in the Daily Mail about depression, it said….. *stops listening*

Tell me what’s wrong.

Just tell me what’s wrong.

FUCKING TELL ME WHAT’S WRONG.

Cheer up!

Get a grip.

You never know, it might never happen!

Happy mums have happy babies.

Oh my daaays, I was so depressed last night when the fit one got kicked off X Factor!

Have a drink, you’ll feel better.

Have another drink, you’ll feel much better.

Have a line, that’ll help.

Have another line, that’ll really help.

Oh I bought you this self help book that – *stops listening*

Stop being so negative.

Do you want to be unhappy?

Listen to this Radiohead song!

You emo.

I found these supplements for you, they’re supposed to help with - *stops listening*

You miserable cow.

Let’s go SHOPPING! That’ll take your mind off of it!

You’re so fucked up.

Ugh, I can’t win can I?

A problem shared is a problem halved!

I had depression one time, I – *stops listening*

WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU WANT?

Why don’t you just go and kill yourself?

What To Say To Someone With Depression:

It’s OK.

Same here.

I’m here if you want to talk.

I understand.

Write it down.

Do you need anything?

I know.

Do you need some help?

I’m not going anywhere.

I’m listening.

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  1. I can’t count the amount of times I’ve heard “What’s wrong with you.” The worst thing is, most of that time, you don’t even know yourself. It’s not like depression comes with a hand-guide. Although something like “The Hitch-hikers Guide To Depression” would be awesome.

  2. My husband’s favourite is “Get out and go for a walk/go to a playgroup”. Well yes in theory that’s what I should do, in practise depression and anxiety rarely permit it! Fab post. Xx

  3. The one that really bugs me is when people say “Well you don’t look depressed” argh I could scream then!!! It’s a mask that I wear most of the time to cover up how I feel,

    Could I add a link to this post please I’m in the middle of writing a post about my depression, and you say it so much better than i can xx

  4. Brilliant! My personal favourites:
    I’m sure if you eat something you’ll feel much better
    What YOU need is a good nights sleep
    Have a shower and smarten yourself up a bit, you’ll be surprised at the difference it makes
    Just keep takin the pills love
    And finally,
    Go for a walk and get some fresh air, blow the cobwebs away
    My lovely cousin said ” if you need anything at all just shout, we are only down the road (she lives 2 hours away!)”
    Great post lovely xxx

    • Doesn’t really help when you’re having a mini breakdown at 3am and need someone there NOW!! Ha, I dunno, maybe I’ll start printing this list off and sticking em on lamposts etc :D thank you so much for reading xxx

  5. Oh I have experienced some over the years:
    • I read this article about coffee drinkers *stopped listening*
    • You have to read this great book on *stopped listening*
    • You don’t look depressed (as someone already wrote).
    • When I was … (usually my mother) *stopped listening*

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