….to someone with depression.
Smile! *insert inane grin from the person saying it*
What’s wrong with you?
What crawled up your arse and died?
Chin up.
You’ll be alright.
Take some Rescue Remedy.
What’s up, now?
You have nothing to be depressed about.
Get over yourself.
Why are you being such a bitch?
Stop being so selfish.
What have you got to be so unhappy about?
Oh, I read an interesting article in the Daily Mail about depression, it said….. *stops listening*
Tell me what’s wrong.
Just tell me what’s wrong.
FUCKING TELL ME WHAT’S WRONG.
Cheer up!
Get a grip.
You never know, it might never happen!
Happy mums have happy babies.
Oh my daaays, I was so depressed last night when the fit one got kicked off X Factor!
Have a drink, you’ll feel better.
Have another drink, you’ll feel much better.
Have a line, that’ll help.
Have another line, that’ll really help.
Oh I bought you this self help book that – *stops listening*
Stop being so negative.
Do you want to be unhappy?
Listen to this Radiohead song!
You emo.
I found these supplements for you, they’re supposed to help with - *stops listening*
You miserable cow.
Let’s go SHOPPING! That’ll take your mind off of it!
You’re so fucked up.
Ugh, I can’t win can I?
A problem shared is a problem halved!
I had depression one time, I – *stops listening*
WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU WANT?
Why don’t you just go and kill yourself?
What To Say To Someone With Depression:
It’s OK.
Same here.
I’m here if you want to talk.
I understand.
Write it down.
Do you need anything?
I know.
Do you need some help?
I’m not going anywhere.
I’m listening.
Hear hear! I suffer from depression too, give us a shout if you want to vent etc x
So very true.
Add to that list – here’s my number, call anytime.
absolutely! thank you for reading
LOVE this!
Now to get my other half to read it and take note…
haha, I know, maybe write some on post-its and hide them around the house? thank you for reading!
Get a Grip happens to be my mums favourite saying #ARGH
DOUBLE ARGH!! Thank you for reading ‘Saurus
I can’t count the amount of times I’ve heard “What’s wrong with you.” The worst thing is, most of that time, you don’t even know yourself. It’s not like depression comes with a hand-guide. Although something like “The Hitch-hikers Guide To Depression” would be awesome.
Exactly. There IS no reason, that’s what people can’t understand. And it totally would! I’ll get to it! Thank you for reading darling xx
All sounds far too true… does this come in print out form??
x
Ooh that’s a good idea! I’ll start fly-postering it all over the land!
Wow, sometimes people can be tactless can’t they?
Absolutely!
I understand.
Darling, I love what you have written here! Love it. I wrote something just like this on my own blog a while ago about what not to say to me when I’m up to my arse in suicidal tendencies. You can check it out here if you fancy it: http://www.thekrakenwakes.org/black-dog-rage-2/amateur-psychiatrics/
Thank you for reading sweetheart
Read yours, and loved it!
Agree with both lists entirely.
Thank you lovely
My husband’s favourite is “Get out and go for a walk/go to a playgroup”. Well yes in theory that’s what I should do, in practise depression and anxiety rarely permit it! Fab post. Xx
Aha the old chesnut of get some fresh air / some exercise! Yeah, nice thought but doesn’t really work does it? Ha, thank you sweetheart xx
The one that really bugs me is when people say “Well you don’t look depressed” argh I could scream then!!! It’s a mask that I wear most of the time to cover up how I feel,
Could I add a link to this post please I’m in the middle of writing a post about my depression, and you say it so much better than i can xx
*nods* Or the “But you’ve been fiiiiine! Where has this come from?!” Some people, eh? It really suprises me that such high percentages of people have had or still have depression and these kinds of comments are still made!! Thank you for reading darling, and of course you can link back – and don’t be daft, whatever you write is absolutely relevant!! xx
OK thank you, I’ll let you know when I’ve finished the post xx
please do!
xx
Brilliant! My personal favourites:
I’m sure if you eat something you’ll feel much better
What YOU need is a good nights sleep
Have a shower and smarten yourself up a bit, you’ll be surprised at the difference it makes
Just keep takin the pills love
And finally,
Go for a walk and get some fresh air, blow the cobwebs away
My lovely cousin said ” if you need anything at all just shout, we are only down the road (she lives 2 hours away!)”
Great post lovely xxx
Doesn’t really help when you’re having a mini breakdown at 3am and need someone there NOW!! Ha, I dunno, maybe I’ll start printing this list off and sticking em on lamposts etc
thank you so much for reading xxx
Oh I have experienced some over the years:
• I read this article about coffee drinkers *stopped listening*
• You have to read this great book on *stopped listening*
• You don’t look depressed (as someone already wrote).
• When I was … (usually my mother) *stopped listening*